Then they expect to hear positive things. Like I'm good, I am doing well, or other such pleasantries. They don't want to hear the truth. They dont want to go deep, they just want surface.
They dont want to hear how you really truly are.
When did we become so uncaring? When did coming along side another human being when they were struggling stop?
When did conversations about life and sharing the good as well as the bad stop?
Allow me to fling some light on it.
People stopped caring when they became self centered. When they only really cared about their appearance on social media. Speaking of social media, if people posted the truth all the time, social media wouldn't be that great. Again people only want to see the positive side of things, they don't want to know you are bawling while posting how wonderful life is when truthfully life is anything but wonderful.
They don't want to know that you worry deeply about the time you have left with a loved one. They don't want to know the hard truth about the wayward child, they really don't want to know the depth of your heart and the pain that resides there. Typical response would be go see a therapist.
If people cared as much now as they did before social media, before only positive things were acceptable. Our world would be different.
We would sit down with a cup or tea, or coffee, or even just water and have heart to heart talks. We would share what was truly going on, and process through the things with those we love and who love us.
We would share the deep things that hurt, the things people now days don't want to hear about. Conversations would be filled with truth good and bad. We would be encouraging, we would hold someone while they let the tears flow over the things that hurt their heart. We would rejoice with them in the good things. We would sit in the ashes with them while their world seemingly fell apart. We would share those things that are now not acceptable. You know the real state of our relationship with God. The way we feel when our wayward child calls just to let you know they have yet again done ridiculous stuff and are in trouble yet again. Or we would talk about the things that make us sad, or down or the dreaded alone. This world is full of people who feel alone but because that isn't socially acceptable we don't talk about it.
This world is also filled with people who don't have a "circle of friends". They can't even keep friends at least not close ones, because again truth isn't allowed and frankly one friend is more truthful and the other one finds that unacceptable.Or distance separates and friendship isn't what it once was.
Again....when did we become so I caring?
When did telling the truth about how you were really doing become completely unacceptable?
Maybe we as Christians should rethink how we interact with others. Do we truly care about people and how they are or are we so self centered, social media perfect, and don't let the world know the truth that we have become liars?
We have a choice to change that...tell the truth about how you are, put that real stuff out there. Be REAL with the world.
Just be warned people run from truth, it's rare when someone wants the truth about how you are really doing. That alone is heartbreaking.
So next time you ask how some one is, take a moment and truly ask, and care about them.
Maybe you'll get the truth and maybe you won't. But I guarantee you that if you truly care people talk, people know when you are sincere or fake. Friendship is made on truth...raw truth.
Personally my circle of friends is small very small, because people don't care like they use to. I know in my heart when someone is sincere (I have that kind of heart) and I know when someone is just being polite. I have heard it called a childlike heart with adult understanding.
Who truly cares about you? Who can you tell the raw truth about your state to? Who in your circle truly cares and wants to sit and have a conversation that goes way beyond the surface?
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